tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post8248058647065789991..comments2023-06-01T11:30:17.270-04:00Comments on Wondering Minds: Religion or Happiness?Wondering Mindshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-91339522037504430522012-05-04T12:36:09.780-04:002012-05-04T12:36:09.780-04:00I hope to have a fulfilling job at the other end y...I hope to have a fulfilling job at the other end yes. <br /><br />I'm not sure what that has to do with your post. Being frum requires sacrifices, but we do it because we believe that its the truth and that there is an after-life and no one wants to burn for eternity (excuse my fire and brimstone) <br /><br />Life is about finding meaning and depth. Fun is important too in moderation, but that's not the priorotyaminspirationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02226594722883362146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-2190344224834477512012-05-04T11:45:52.992-04:002012-05-04T11:45:52.992-04:00Haha, very witty comment. He is great, I'd def...Haha, very witty comment. He is great, I'd definitely suggest reading some of his blog!<br /><br />I think the most important part about happiness is finding meaning in what we are doing and feeling connected to something greater. I think religion, Judaism, is about that...it is about finding our purpose in this world, fulfilling it, and getting closer to Hashem (the greatest source of light/clarity/happiness). <br /><br />I'm glad you liked them, B"HNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11988396893369485100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-27729849362819083072012-05-04T09:32:47.191-04:002012-05-04T09:32:47.191-04:00All three were very good reads. Thanks for sharing...All three were very good reads. Thanks for sharing!Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-13262438124043008752012-05-04T09:20:34.219-04:002012-05-04T09:20:34.219-04:00Do you have a link to that blog piece you wrote?
...Do you have a link to that blog piece you wrote?<br /><br />And are you suggesting reading Shades of Gray? Just kidding, but yes, it is all about finding your specific shade in this world.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-438789522638862132012-05-04T09:20:00.279-04:002012-05-04T09:20:00.279-04:00I forgot the posts on happiness, I'll only put...I forgot the posts on happiness, I'll only put three, though you can search on my blog for more: <br /><br />http://princessofhashem.blogspot.com/2011/10/how-do-you-feel-morrning-after.html<br /><br />http://princessofhashem.blogspot.com/2011/02/thou-shall-be-happy.html<br /><br />http://princessofhashem.blogspot.com/2011/03/got-simcha.htmlNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11988396893369485100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-71220615417964815002012-05-04T09:14:38.278-04:002012-05-04T09:14:38.278-04:00I didn't read all the comments so I apologize ...I didn't read all the comments so I apologize in advance if I sound repetitive, but first you have to define happiness. What is happiness? True happiness...not the ephemeral type...<br /><br />Think of a moment when you have been truly happy. Not happy for a minute, day, or week. I'm talking about the sensation of fulfillment and pleasure that comes with having meaning in your life. I wrote at length about happiness, you can feel free to check it out:<br /><br />Bekitzur, if you define happiness properly then you will see that there is no contradiction between being frum and being happy. On the contrary, "ivdu et Hashem be'simcha." Obviously there is a HUGE difference between halacha and chumras (though unfortunately the line is blurred as you move to the right), so with that in mind, I'll end with: There is no black and white in life (pun intended)--life is about finding YOUR shade of gray (within the context of halacha).Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11988396893369485100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-8518022703088861292012-05-03T22:58:32.054-04:002012-05-03T22:58:32.054-04:00One should always attempt to find heterim for Jews...One should always attempt to find heterim for Jews, as noted by the axiom, "Koach d'hetera adifa." As I currently study for Yoreh Yoreh, I am constantly trying to find loopholes to be Mattir "transgressions." While I don't plan to use these loopholes, at least I should be able to think that so and so is following the letter of the law.Levinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-45640125783225319742012-05-03T20:41:05.702-04:002012-05-03T20:41:05.702-04:00I commend you for doing PA school, it's not ea...I commend you for doing PA school, it's not easy.<br /><br />Do you think you'll enjoy the outcome from it?<br /><br />And if not, why do you continue to do it? Instead of finding something fun and enjoyable.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-69456792997532638272012-05-03T17:25:58.595-04:002012-05-03T17:25:58.595-04:00The only thing i want to say, is that religion has...The only thing i want to say, is that religion has never made me miserable. It may be inconvenient, it may be difficult but that does not mean its miserable. <br /><br />Anything worth pursuing is going to be challenging and require sacrifice. Im in PA school. Is it easy? Is it fun? No! Its hard, requires discipline and requires sacrificing hours and hours of sleep. Do I give up? no. Yes, sometimes i am more disciplined than others. We are all people. We are all fallible. Just today, I mistakenly ate at a place with less than stellar hechsher. I slipped. It happens that's why teshuva exists. G-d does not expect perfection of us. He expects us to try. Thats all we can expect of ourselves.aminspirationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02226594722883362146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-35042998715509749622012-05-03T15:26:08.863-04:002012-05-03T15:26:08.863-04:00No, it makes us Jews.
As it says in Pirkei Avos, ...No, it makes us Jews.<br /><br />As it says in Pirkei Avos, "Asei Lecha Rav." Everyone should have a Rav that they trust to ask such questions to, and do as such. I don't feel these things need to be discussed or debated between Jews. For what purpose?Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-22137734872764749542012-05-03T15:24:16.583-04:002012-05-03T15:24:16.583-04:00Not everything is as clear as night and day.
Some...Not everything is as clear as night and day.<br /><br />Some things are. But some aren't.<br /><br />An example, right now during Sefirah - shaving for work, music, etc. Those are all things that everyone holds different. So if one person shaves, and another doesn't, does that make one of them wrong, and another correct?Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-61318112057095013842012-05-03T14:58:29.404-04:002012-05-03T14:58:29.404-04:00Guys, give WM a break. If you have a problem with ...Guys, give WM a break. If you have a problem with his idea of a confessional, just don't comment on the post! It's not nice to be rude. Bloggers have feelings too...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-66915608882662324502012-05-03T14:09:01.621-04:002012-05-03T14:09:01.621-04:00boobooAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-46323266938159811462012-05-03T14:03:19.989-04:002012-05-03T14:03:19.989-04:00I always liked this story which illustrates your p...I always liked this story which illustrates your point quite well:<br /><br />The saintly Rabbi Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev once chanced upon a strong, young man who was brazenly eating on Yom Kippur. The Rabbi suggested that perhaps he was feeling ill. The fellow insisted he was in the best of health. Perhaps he had forgotten that today was the holy day of fasting? "Who doesn't know that today is Yom Kippur?" responded the young man. Perhaps he was never taught that Jews do not eat on this day? "Every child knows that Yom Kippur is a fast day, Rabbi!" Whereupon Rabbi Levi Yitzchak raised his eyes heavenward and said, "Master of the Universe, see how wonderful Your people are! Here is a Jew who, despite everything, refuses to tell a lie!" The Berditchever was always able to look at others with a compassionate, understanding and benevolent eye.<br /><br />And this article, http://www.chabad.org/parshah/article_cdo/aid/302406/jewish/Virtue-Vice-and-Vision.htm<br /><br />Yes, we are not supposed to judge others, we are supposed to look at others favorably. However, that does not mean that we should twist the laws in order to find the good in people.<br /><br />Start justifying everything, and that just gives people more reason to sin. Because now they have an excuse.<br /><br />If it's wrong, it's wrong. End of story. We can say, this person is not a bad person, even if he did the wrong thing.Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-18536019625820012782012-05-03T11:56:46.235-04:002012-05-03T11:56:46.235-04:00Just a disclaimer:
I don't necessarily believ...Just a disclaimer:<br /><br />I don't necessarily believe any of the laws are incorrect.<br />Nor do I think they should be changed for modern times.<br />I am just saying that maybe there is a way we can look at all these things, and find the loopholes that allow them, or make them not as bad, so that we can find the good in others, who make the mistakes, and do these things.<br /><br />Isn’t that what Judaism is supposed to look for? The best in others?Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-8380238171737171862012-05-03T11:50:31.438-04:002012-05-03T11:50:31.438-04:00Correct, the appropriate laws apply.
We don't...Correct, the appropriate laws apply.<br /><br />We don't drive on Shabbos, because you aren't allowed to travel on Shabbos.<br /><br />We don't turn on lights, because it has the same characteristics of starting a fire.<br /><br />For discussions sake:<br /><br />Now, I personally don't text on Shabbos, but what law are you going to place on it?<br /><br />-WMWondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-41287011227677807882012-05-03T11:27:10.422-04:002012-05-03T11:27:10.422-04:00What needs to be considered? Texting on Shabbos? W...What needs to be considered? Texting on Shabbos? What next. Driving on Shabbos. There is no mention of modern technology in the Torah. That doesn't mean Torah laws don't apply.Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-90703601409627536162012-05-03T11:24:29.981-04:002012-05-03T11:24:29.981-04:00I didn't say that this is how I hold. Just som...I didn't say that this is how I hold. Just something that needs to be considered.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-57925082606971028962012-05-03T11:22:46.048-04:002012-05-03T11:22:46.048-04:00So are you one of those Reform modern day Jews who...So are you one of those Reform modern day Jews who think the Torah doesn't apply today?Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-59356584948554649472012-05-03T11:21:33.925-04:002012-05-03T11:21:33.925-04:00Well no. Some of the issues people have are modern...Well no. Some of the issues people have are modern day issues, such as texting. The Rabbanim never expecting these things, because they weren't around. So they are loopholes, that constantly keep getting plugged. Sooner or later, you run out of plugs...Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-3126613956697282532012-05-03T11:06:45.787-04:002012-05-03T11:06:45.787-04:00Not flaws in our religion. Flaws in our PEOPLE.Not flaws in our religion. Flaws in our PEOPLE.FrumGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698026647411592329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-70459901020133618132012-05-03T11:04:41.402-04:002012-05-03T11:04:41.402-04:00I listed a bunch of them in the previous blog post...I listed a bunch of them in the previous blog post, and I even said that I do some of the things mentioned, but not all of them.<br /><br />The point of people listing here, is because as FrumGeek said over there "No one I know has ever...". Well, maybe they just haven't told him, or you, or any of us. So I am curious what people actually will admit to doing, just so we can understand that not everyone is perfect.<br /><br />I don't care who it is doing the deed. Just what the deeds are, so that we can see what flaws might be in our religion, and why they may come about. If enough people list the things they do wrong, maybe we can figure out why it is we do all these things that are anti-religion.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-47121380746148671252012-05-03T11:01:04.142-04:002012-05-03T11:01:04.142-04:00Well, that's clearly a difference between you ...Well, that's clearly a difference between you and me! And difference is good, it's what shapes every individual into the person they are.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-73902683595720001382012-05-03T10:29:56.275-04:002012-05-03T10:29:56.275-04:00"Forgive me Father, for I have sinned".
..."Forgive me Father, for I have sinned".<br /><br />This is not confessionals. What good will it do anyone to sit here and reveal all of your transgressions? Besides for the fact that it is probably considered lashon Harah against yourself.<br /><br />And notice, WM, how you ask for everyone's dirty little secrets, and yet you share none of your own. <br /><br />Oh do tell, what have you done wrong in the name of happiness over religion?Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793633392373439642.post-9714888107998094682012-05-03T10:13:13.070-04:002012-05-03T10:13:13.070-04:00Cereal bars are almost always held together by pig...Cereal bars are almost always held together by pig gelatin. So no, it's not simple at all.FrumGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698026647411592329noreply@blogger.com