I've been thinking about death a lot recently, and I've come to two realizations on it.
First, people are scared of dying. I'm not, just because if I die, I would have nothing to be scared of, and nothing to worry about, so what exactly is the fear?
Yes, this could be because I don't have that someone close, who I think it would hurt if I died, so I guess that at some point I could develop a fear for death, at which point I may choose to come back to here and update this.
The other thing I've come to realize, is that death can come suddenly.
My parents are in their mid-60s, which when I think about it, is not overall that old, but when you look at some of the people that have passed away this year, is all of a sudden right in the middle of the pack.
People like Hugo Chavez and James Gandolfini, who were 58 and 51, all of a sudden got up and died (more-so a shock with Gandolfini then Chavez).
At some point in our lives we will all experience the death of close ones. Its inevitable. For some people, unfortunately, its experienced when they are young, others don't until much later in life.
I can't seem to decide which is worse.
Is it worse to lose that person close to you when you are younger, and then miss them the rest of your life.
Or is it harder on you to get close to them as you get older, and then suddenly they are gone.
This isn't my first post about death, and I'm sure it won't be my last, although some thoughts on it have popped up on this blog, but by now, I've "drafted" them, as they weren't thoughts I was supposed to be having...as no normal person would...I guess just another example that I'm not normal.
Finn really got to you, eh?
ReplyDeleteNope. Couldn't care about him, especially after Dianna Agron was shunned.
DeleteOr is it harder on you to get close to them as you get older, and then suddenly they are gone.
ReplyDeleteI hate to tell you, but rarely are older loved ones "suddenly" gone. The majority of elderly people develop major health problems as they age, but they don't die suddenly. They die painfully of cancers, they suffer with congestive heart failure or dementia for years and years. So make sure your parents have long-term care insurance.
I don't think I'm afraid of dying as much as I fear getting older. I'm afraid of those major health problems that Tesyaa mentioned. The thought of succumbing to Alzheimer's, cancer, etc. scares me.
ReplyDeleteMy fear of losing someone I care about is much greater. That's a thought that has kept me up at night. It's hard to say, but I think it's worse to lose someone when you're younger. It's a different kind of pain though. You miss that person in a different way.
"People are scared of dying. I'm not, just because if I die, I would have nothing to be scared of, and nothing to worry about, so what exactly is the fear?"
ReplyDeleteI find it curious when people say something like this. So, obviously fear is a human emotion, and when one dies, he is stripped of his mortality, right? However, as a human, can one not be afraid of what will happen to his soul after death? Are you so confident that you'll have done everything you could before you pass on?
And no, I have no idea when I will die, so I can't guarantee I'll do everything I'd want to before then.
DeleteHowever, I certainly hope to try to achieve what I can before death.
And as I said to FG, I'm probably going to hell for a bit anyway, so my soul being "afraid" will happen either way.
WM is a complete tzadik. He has nothing to worry about.
ReplyDeleteThanks FG. But I'm going to hell :)
DeleteI'm not afraid of death. I'm afraid of dying. It's the transition from physical life to...? -that is the hardest...
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