Wednesday, December 26, 2012

The Dark Side

I sense the Dark Side is lifting its head...and a storm is coming.

A storm that will lead to the war, to end all wars.

One that will bring out the fiercest of all.

And the filth that inhabits the Earth will come crawling out of its hole.

Only to get smitten by the sword that it brandished.

Evil can never win.

Evil shall never win.

Only the strongest will survive.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Guns Don't Kill People, People Kill People

With the recent tragedy of the Newton 26, the ever present debate of gun control comes up. And as an American I believe in our second amendment rights, to bear arms.

Everyone has their own views on it...but I am going to state my case, by bringing up some of the nation's recent mass shootings, and the people who caused them...

Guns don't kill people.

People kill people.

And in all cases I mention what was "wrong" with the killers, leading them to these acts. None of them were sane people, that snapped. They all had issues, and guns or no guns, would've caused damage.

(In date order, from most recent)

---December 14, 2012 – Newtown, Connecticut – Sandy Hook Elementary School Shooting – Twenty children and seven adults, including the gunman, are dead after a shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
SHOOTER – Adam Lanza – Shooter had a personality disorder, and had been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome.

---December 11, 2012 – Portland, Oregon – Clackamas Mall Shooting – A masked gunman opens fire in a crowded mall, killing two and seriously injuring a third person before turning the gun on himself.
SHOOTER – Jacob Tyler Roberts – Wanted to be a Marine, but a foot injury stopped that dream. Mother died of cancer when he was a child, no father around.

---August 5, 2012 – Oak Creek, Wisconsin – Wisconsin Sikh Temple Shooting – A white supremacist shoots six people and a responding policeman at a Sikh temple before shooting himself in the head.
SHOOTER – Wade Michael Page – White supremacist.

---July 20, 2012 – Aurora, Colorado – Gunman kills 12 and injures 58 at a midnight screening of “The Dark Knight Rises”.
SHOOTER – James Eagan Holmes – He had met with three mental health professionals prior to the attack. Self-claimed to have “dysphoric mania”, and in his words was “stay away, because I am bad news”.

---April 2, 2012 – Oakland, California – Oikos University Shooting – A former student at a Christian college fatally shoots seven people and injures three.
SHOOTER – One L. Goh – Being tracked by creditors (owed tens of thousands of dollars). His brother had died in a car crash a year earlier, and later in 2011 his mother died. He was upset at the school, which has expelled him, for behavioral problems.
---August 7, 2011 – Copley Township, Ohio – A man in a family dispute uses his handgun to shoot and kill his girlfriend and six others.
SHOOTER – Michael Hance – First killed his girlfriend, and then killed her brother, and the witnesses who saw him commit these actions. The fight with the girlfriend started over a home improvement project.

---March 10, 2009 – Geneva, Alabama – Geneva County Massacre – Eleven victims, ages 18 months to 74 years old, are killed by a lone gunman in a violent family feud.
SHOOTER – Michael Kenneth McLendon – Shooter killed his mother, uncle, cousins, grandmother, and others, including relatives of the county deputy sheriff. He also burned down the family home, and had a hit list of others he was going to kill, all due to a legal issue with his family.

---December 5, 2007 – Omaha, Nebraska – Westroads Mall Shooting – A 19 year old man shoots nine people at a department store before cops kill him.
SHOOTER – Robert A. Hawkins – Family history of psychiatric problems, and he had previously threatened to kill his stepmother with an axe (leading to him being hospitalized). He had ADD, mood disorder, oppositional defiant disorder, among others. He left a suicide note, reportedly saying “I’m going out in style”.

---April 16, 2007 – Blacksburg, Virginia – Virginia Tech Massacre – A student at Virginia Tech kills 32 classmates and wounds 25 before committing suicide.
SHOOTER – Seung-Hui Cho – The shooter has selective mutism (a severe anxiety disorder), as well as a major depressive disorder.

---March 21, 2005 – Red Lake, Minnesota – Red Lake Massacre – A 16 year old boy kills 11 people, including his grandfather and his grandfather’s girlfriend, on their Indian reservation.
SHOOTER – Jeffrey Weise – Personal stress and depression led to the shooting. He had twice tried to commit suicide. His father also committed suicide, and lost his mother at a young age, following a car accident.

---December 8, 2004 – Columbus, Ohio – A deranged fan shoots a Pantera guitarist at a concert as he performs onstage, then fires at fans, killing four people.
SHOOTER – Nathan Gale – Shooter was upset over the breakup of the band, and also believed that the guitarist he shot had stolen a song he had written. He also had paranoid schizophrenia, causing delusions that the band was reading his mind, and stealing his thoughts.

---October 2002 – Washington D.C. area – Beltway Sniper Attacks – Two snipers go on a three-week spree, killing 10 people around D.C. and Virginia.
SHOOTERS – John Allen Muhammad and Lee Boyd Malvo – Muhammad had been twice divorced, and had a restraining order from his second wife, after threats to kill her, and reclaim the children. Malvo, who was a minor at the time of the crimes, claims to have been sexually abused by Muhammad.

---April 20, 1999 – Littleton, Colorado – Columbine High School – Two senior students invade Columbine High School, killing 12 students and one teacher and injuring 21, before committing suicide.
SHOOTERS – Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold – The shooters planned this for a year, with the intent of a “Grander end” and to “Terrorize the entire nation by attacking American life”. Those they killed were referred to as “Collateral Damage”.
They also planned a bombing, that would’ve killed 600+ people, had their timers not failed.
Klebold was depressive and suicidal.
Harris was cold, calculating and homicidal.

---October 16, 1991 – Killeen, Texas – Luby’s Massacre – An unemployed man drives a truck through a packed cafeteria and fatally shoots 23 people and injures 20 before killing himself.
SHOOTER – George Hennard – Described as unemployed, angry, withdrawn, and a dislike of woman.

---June 18, 1990 – Jacksonville, Florida – GMAC Massacre – A man angry over a reposed car storms into the agency and over two days shoots 11 of its 86 employees before killing himself.
SHOOTER – James Edward Pough – The shooter was upset after his car was repossessed, and killed nine people at the dealership. The day before he committed a robbery of a convenience store, a hit-and-run and murdered two others.

(credit to the New York Daily News for the list of shootings, and parts of the descriptions of the shootings.)

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

No respect for JB

Yes, I'll admit it, I hate Justin Beiber.

It's not just that he looks like a girl. And sounds like a girl. And grabs his crotch like a girl.

It's the fact that he has absolutely zero respect for those around him.

I mean, would you show up for a meeting with one of the world leaders, looking like this?

(JB with Prime Minister of Canada, Stephen Harper)

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Rest In Peace, Innocent Angels

That is the list. Of the 20 innocent children, murdered in cold blood. By someone who's name doesn't even deserve to be mentioned.

Their parents sent them off to school. To learn. The ABC's. Arithmetic. How to write their names.

And they will never return.

The horror. The sorrow. The pain.

The stories of the heroics.

The principal and teachers. Who stood up against their attacker, and were innocently gunned down.

Others that were saved by these heroics. Children locked in bathrooms and closets, as the teachers lied, telling the gunman, that they had left to the gym.

How many parents came out of that firehouse, with tears of joy, that it wasn't there little angel.

Yet others can only find peace, in knowing that it all happened so fast, and there young ones didn't suffer.

How can you ever forget can't. But just hope that your child was all part of Gods plan, in whatever way it was meant to be.

And yes, for the next few weeks, blame will be put on gun laws. And security at the school. And many other places where it doesn't belong.

For when someone is truly crazy, nothing can stop them.

Rest In Peace, Innocent Angels.

Rest In Peace, Guardian Teachers.

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Gayness in the Orthodox World

ZP recently had a post that discussed lesbianism, and there was a flurry of comments on it, against Gayness, and how it is a sickness, and all that other close-minded spewing that is accustomed to Yeshiva-taught students.

I think that a lot of people have to realize that it is not a choice. And it is something that people just are.

You and I, as men, may like girls, like her, and get thoughts of happiness. 

And all you girls out there may like guys, and get warm fuzzy feelings in your heart while looking at guys like this.

But there are a lot of people out there, who just don't feel an attraction to the opposite gender. Their minds aren't programmed like yours and mine, and they feel an attraction to the same sex.

And this happens to both men and woman.

I personally know both guys and girls, who have felt physical attraction to the same gender, and some who have even acted upon it.

No. It is not a sickness.

Stop shutting it down, because it is something you don't understand.

These people try to commit suicide, because of the pressure that they are put under, by Rabbeim, and taunting "friends", to "Snap out of their gayness".

That's not possible, because it's not a "health condition" or "phase".

It's called LIFE.

On a side note, here is a great video of Orthodox Jews, finally being able to speak out, about their stories.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Blogger Stalkers

Why do we post for the stalkers to read?

Oh yes...they are out there...people who read our posts, but never say anything to us...learning everything there is to know about us...

Making incorrect assumptions...

Making fools of themselves...

Oh, and before they email me, and say "Why would you tell people about that?", just know, that you can't email me saying that, unless you are admitting to the stalking :)

On that note, I love having stalkers!!! It makes me feel popular again.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Ask, and you may learn.

Sometimes people see things, and don't really understand them.

So they either ignore it (and then the next time it comes up, they still don't know, but by then they really should, so it's too late to ask), or they say "I have no idea what this means", but never ask for an explanation.

If people would just ask, there are plenty of us out there that would just answer.

And then you would know :)

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Mr. Google

So, like every obsessive blogger, I check my stats once in a while.

Simple things, that blogger generally provides me with. Things like, "Page Views", "Most Popular", etc.

But then I found a website that can tell me where I rank in Google Searches, based on different search queries.

Some of my posts, I was fairly surprised, when it would give me the ranking, it would say: "Your page is ranked #19 in this query".

19!!!! Yes, I am starting to make a dent in this world.

But then I got a real of my pages came up listed as "Your page is ranked #1 in this query."



Granted it was on and not, but still, I'm impressed. :)

I just wish I knew who some of the people reading my posts are...because the ones getting the most reads, are all people I would love to have a conversation with.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Rules, Rules, Rules

If I don't want to play by the rules, who is anyone else to tell me to?

Especially if the rules aren't really rules, but guidelines, that some choose to do, yet others don't.

Maybe your interpretation of the rules are wrong? Or maybe rules truly are made to be broken...

Now I'm differentiating here between "rules" and "laws", laws are obviously to be followed, or suffer the consequences (death, hell, and all that other good stuff).

But if it's a rule, lay off, and let others do as they wish, and if you don't like it, well then, simply walk away, and don't become a pimple on the rump of society.

Monday, October 22, 2012

Define: Friend

It's actually quite a simple task.

I am looking for the definition of the word "friend".

Is a friend there for you when you call? Or only when you message? Or only when they get around to it?

Is a friend someone who when you say "We need to hang out.", it happens. Or can it be someone you never see socially.

What defines a friend. What distinguishes friends from "close friends" and "bff"s?

Yes, I know my readership on this blog is now next to nothing, but for those that are still hanging around...just help me to understand...

Friday, October 19, 2012

Sarcasm By Design

So I tend to use sarcasm a lot, both in my writing and my speaking.

When I speak, it’s quite easy to tell sarcasm. But during typing, it is harder to detect.

So I figured I would start with some different font, maybe one of those that includes the word “Comic”, such as “Comic Sans”.

And then I realized…my phone doesn't have fonts…and fonts are different everywhere. So I have come up with a simple method to distinguish my sarcasm.

The tilde (~). Placed on both ends of your sarcasm, so those reading can tell where it begins and ends.

It is rarely used, so it wont confuse people when it is used to mark sarcasm.

All in favor of this idea, don’t comment on this.

All those who do like it, feel free to voice the awesomeness of this idea down below.

~ Great, you all love the idea :) ~

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Educate Yourself and Don't Look Stupid

By now, we all know the famous Liam Neeson quote: "I can tell you I don't have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills".

This actually applies to me in my life. I don't have a lot of money, but I do have a particular set of skills.

And because of this set of skills, it leads to interesting job opportunities for me.

Now this all leads to people not knowing how to have a normal conversation with me, without making some really bad joke about my line of work.

I hear a lot of: "You should do _______" with the blank being filled by something that would be detrimental to my future in this line of work.

Why do people think that is funny?

I don't tell my banker friends to steal money.

I don't tell my Dr. friends to leave a gauze inside next time they close up a surgery.

I don't tell my accountant friends to fix the books.

So why is it okay for people to tell me that I should mess up at my job, because they think it would be a hoot and a holler?

I think people should educate themselves. And if you don't really know what it is that someone does for a career path, ask them to explain it to you.

Most people with interesting careers and skill sets would be more than happy to educate you on what it is they do.

And if you asked me what I did, and I explained it to you, you wouldn't sound like a complete idiot every time you make those bad jokes.

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Damn You Google + New Look

So Google decided to randomly reset my page views to 0.

So instead of a few hundred, thousand, whatever, I now have 0 page views. So now I can hopefully get a few views on this to start it off again!

And since they messed me up, I decided to change the look of my blog.

What do y'all think?

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Death of the Working Man

For years the way of America was, girl looking for a match would be looking for a working man.

Someone who would be bringing in an income, of any sort, and had an education to himself.

Then the Lakewood Craze hit.

The boys stopped going to college, and started learning 24/7.

Living off Mommy and Daddy's money.

Them, and their wives, and their 17 kids. And 9 grand kids. All living off those parents/grandparents monies.

And now, this is affecting me.

"How?", you may ask.

Well, you are lucky enough for me to tell you.

I am not a "learner".

I went to college. Finished college with a Bachelors Degree, and then went into the workforce.

And because of this life style, I never was able to find a set time to learn every day/week/etc.

Now I am looking for a "shidduch". Be it through friends, or the multitude of money-wasting websites online.

And every girl is looking for the same thing.

A guy who is learning.

If you have an education, and a job, you aren't quite what they are looking for.

Well girls, all I can say is, "I hope Mommy and Daddy have a lot of money to support you through life."

All I can say from my point of view: More of these "sheltered girls" need to go out, get actual educations, and come back to us Working Men.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Oops...Wrong Date

True story that I heard over the last two days:

A guy had a date in Monsey. Drove to the address, and pulled up in front of the driveway.

A girl in the house next door (also waiting for a date), came running out of her house, and got in the car.

Sorry guys, it's just a funny story...I can't say that they got married because of that mistake!

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Motivation Comes Standard

People need often need motivation.

Heck, I need it just to post.

So, I'm not necessarily going to re-start posting anything worthwhile. But as a way to get back in the game, how about I post motivation every day (or so) , for all of us to laugh at/with/too/etc..

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Fakeness of the New Year

How many texts/emails did I receive on Sunday asking "Do you forgive me for everything I might've done in the last year?"?

The answer: Too many.

My response to them was all the same: 

That's right. I don't answer them.

"Why?" You may ask?

Well, it's quite simple.

If you actually did something wrong, then apologize when you did your wrongdoings.

And if you didn't do something wrong, then you have nothing to ask an apology for.

Now, many people will argue, maybe they did something wrong, and that's why they are asking for forgiveness...I say, do what I do.

Move on.

If you truly did something that needs forgiving, then you know about it, and should address it specifically.

If you are just guessing you might've done something wrong, then it is so minor, that in my mind, it's moved past already.

Enough ranting.

Happy New Year to the ground.

Thursday, September 6, 2012


I feel the need to vent...but haven't done it in a while, so don't even know where to begin.

So instead, I'm just mentioning the need.

Good talk guys.

Friday, July 20, 2012

The Shooting in Theater Nine - Stories From Within

This is one of those crazy stories that came out of the Colorado shootings today, that has so far left 12 dead and 38 injured.

On June 2nd, 2012, a shooting occurred at the Toronto Eaton Centre, one of the people whose life choices barely kept her from death that day, was Jessica Ghawi, who blogs under the name Jessica Redfield, and this is her story:

Late Night Thoughts on the Eaton Center Shooting
I can’t get this odd feeling out of my chest. This empty, almost sickening feeling won’t go away. I noticed this feeling when I was in the Eaton Center in Toronto just seconds before someone opened fire in the food court. An odd feeling which led me to go outside and unknowingly out of harm‘s way. It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around how a weird feeling saved me from being in the middle of a deadly shooting.
What started off as a trip to the mall to get sushi and shop, ended up as a day that has forever changed my life. I was on a mission to eat sushi that day, and when I’m on a mission, nothing will deter me. When I arrived at the Eaton Center mall, I walked down to the food court and spotted a sushi restaurant. Instead of walking in, sitting down and enjoying sushi, I changed my mind, which is very unlike me, and decided that a greasy burger and poutine would do the trick. I rushed through my dinner. I found out after seeing a map of the scene, that minutes later a man was standing in the same spot I just ate at and opened fire in the food court full of people. Had I had sushi, I would’ve been in the same place where one of the victims was found.
My receipt shows my purchase was made at 6:20 pm. After that purchase I said I felt funny. It wasn’t the kind of funny you feel after spending money you know you shouldn’t have spent. It was almost a panicky feeling that left my chest feeling like something was missing. A feeling that was overwhelming enough to lead me to head outside in the rain to get fresh air instead of continuing back into the food court to go shopping at SportChek. The gunshots rung out at 6:23. Had I not gone outside, I would’ve been in the midst of gunfire.
I walked around the outside of the mall. People started funneling out of every exit. When I got back to the front, I saw a police car, an ambulance, and a fire truck. I initially thought that maybe the street performer that was drumming there earlier had a heart attack or something. But more and more police officers, ambulances, and fire trucks started showing up. Something terrible has happened. I overheard a panicked guy say, “There was a shooting in the food court.” I thought that there was no way, I was just down there. I asked him what happened. He said “Some guy just opened fire. Shot about 8 shots. It sounded like balloons popping. The guy is still on the loose.” I’m not sure what made me stick around at this point instead of running as far away from the mall as possible. Shock? Curiosity? Human nature? Who knows.
Standing there in the midst of the chaos all around us, police started yelling to get back and make room. I saw a young shirtless boy, writhing on a stretcher, with his face and head covered by the EMS as they rushed him by us to get him into an ambulance. The moment was surprisingly calm. The EMTs helping the boy weren’t yelling orders and no one was screaming like a night time medical drama. It was as if it was one swift movement to get the boy out of the mall and into the ambulance. That’s when it really hit me. I felt nauseas. Who would go into a mall full of thousands of innocent people and open fire? Is this really the world we live in?
Police start yelling again “GET BACK NOW!” Another stretcher came rushing out of the mall. I saw a man on a stretcher, the blanket underneath him spotted with blood. Multiple gunshot holes in his chest, side, and neck were visible. It’s not like in the movies when you see someone shot and they’re bleeding continuously from the wound. There was no blood flowing from the wounds, I could only see the holes. Numerous gaping holes, as if his skin was putty and someone stuck their finger in it. Except these wounds were caused by bullets. Bullets shot out of hatred. His dark skin on his torso was tinted red with what I assume was his own blood. He was rushed into the ambulance and taken away.
More people joined the crowd at the scene and asked what happened. “There was a shooting in the food court,” kept being whispered through the crowd like a game of telephone. I was standing near a security guard when I heard him say over his walkie talkie, “One fatality.” At this point I was convinced I was going to throw up. I’m not an EMT or a police officer. I’m not trained to handle crime and murder. Gun crimes are fairly common where I grew up in Texas, but I never imagined I’d experience a violent crime first hand. I’m on vacation and wanted to eat and go shopping. Everyone else at the mall probably wanted the same thing. I doubt anyone left for the mall imagined they witness a shooting.
I was shown how fragile life was on Saturday. I saw the terror on bystanders’ faces. I saw the victims of a senseless crime. I saw lives change. I was reminded that we don’t know when or where our time on Earth will end. When or where we will breathe our last breath. For one man, it was in the middle of a busy food court on a Saturday evening.
I say all the time that every moment we have to live our life is a blessing. So often I have found myself taking it for granted. Every hug from a family member. Every laugh we share with friends. Even the times of solitude are all blessings. Every second of every day is a gift. After Saturday evening, I know I truly understand how blessed I am for each second I am given.
I feel like I am overreacting about what I experienced. But I can’t help but be thankful for whatever caused me to make the choices that I made that day. My mind keeps replaying what I saw over in my head. I hope the victims make a full recovery. I wish I could shake this odd feeling from my chest. The feeling that’s reminding me how blessed I am. The same feeling that made me leave the Eaton Center. The feeling that may have potentially saved my life.

As seen on her blog here.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

BDE: Harav Elyashiv

‎I am not one to post news stories. But this one is too big to pass up.

The Posek Hador, Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, has passed on to a better world.

He was 102 years old.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

50 Shades of Grey Trilogy

After reading the trilogy a few weeks ago, I wondered how I would approach the subject in my blog. And then it hit me. Just say it like it is, and make lots of jokes that tie in to the book.

For starters, you may wonder what would possess a guy to read these books. And for that I'll respond by stating the facts: For 19 weeks the 3 books have ruled the Top 3 spots on the New York Times Bestseller list. The second fact, 120+ days straight on top of the Amazon Bestseller List (70 days taking the Top 4, with the Box-Set added in).

Now that we got that over with, let's approach the facts of the story.

Yes. The books are about sex. Domination. Sex. Sex. And oh yeah, did I mention sex?

But that's just half the story.

Behind all this is the story of an innocent girl, who falls in love with one of the richest men in the country, and has to get used, both by her husband, and to the fact that she now can have literally anything she would like.

With car accidents, car chases, shootings, whips, ransom, and loads of cash being shot all over the place, it actually makes for a pretty compelling story line throughout the trilogy.

But all everyone focuses on is the sex.

Because that is the taboo side of the book.

The part that makes everyone want to read it.

I read it because it was supposed to be a good read.

And while there are lots of grammatical errors (remember, they were originally written as e-pubs and had no editors), a repeated switch between American English and English English, and some inconsistency errors, it turned out to be a good trilogy, that kept me into it until the end came around.

So yes, I would recommend this read to my friends, but no, I wouldn't tell them to admit that they actually read it.

And yes, I'm sure many people have questions about the books, and whatnot, and as usual, feel free to reply here, or email me, and I'll tell you if the books are right for you, or anything else you may want to know about them ;)

Oh, and for those wondering, there is indeed a movie deal out there, and yes, I will go out watch it when it comes out. And not for the sex, but for the possibility of seeing Angelina Jolie again!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

When Does An Event Become History?

So today I saw this and it got me thinking.

Yes, the person who made this picture had a point. We are told to never forget The Titanic, 9/11 and the Holocaust.

And yes, people do tend to brush aside slavery in this land (not saying my thoughts, just what is fact).

But here is where I have to draw the line.

Let's diagnose these four events, if I may (and I may, because it is my blog).

The Titanic - ~3,300 deaths. Killed by an accident in a ship hitting an iceberg. Year: 1912. (~2,400 rich people; ~ 900 hard working crew members)

9/11 - ~3,000 deaths. Killed by terrorists. Year: 2001. (All except 19 of which were hard working people, who were in the wrong place at the wrong time)

The Holocaust - ~11million-17million. Killed by a ruthless dictator. Year: ~1930s-1940s. (~6m Jews; ~2.5m Soviet POWs; ~10,000 Homosexuals; Among others)

African Slavery in the US - ~11million. Killed through slavery and associated acts. Year: ~1519-1867. (50% mortality rate during capture and storage; 10% mortality rate during ocean travel; 50% mortality rate during 1st year)

Now again, I am not putting down slavery, because no, we should never forget it, it is a horrible thing.

But you have to take certain things into account.

Look how long ago it happened.

Slavery ended in America 145+ years ago. The Titanic is rarely mentioned anymore, as it is 100+ years ago. The Holocaust is easily forgotten by many, and not spoken about to a lot of children, although it is only ~70+ years ago. And 9/11 is the one most mentioned, because it is still fresh in our minds.

No one says "Never Forget Black Death", even though ~450million+ people died. Why? Because it happened almost 700 years ago.

With time, things aren't forgotten, but they are pushed back.

No one will ever say slavery was a good thing, or that we should forget it. But after a while, as the ones who were around when it happened die out, they become History.

A part of our past, and something to remember for the future.

Yes, I do think that within ten years, The Titanic will become an obsolete talking point (unless they make another movie...ugh, please don't).

By the year 2,075 the Holocaust will be a thing just known in History books, as it will be over 125 years old, and 3 or 4 generations in the past.

And yes, I do believe that by the year 2,125, 9/11 will be a thing for the History books. A thing that few will know about in great detail, and unless made into a National Day of Mourning, will become known only in the East Coast cities of New York, Washington D.C. and Shanksville. I proudly am one of the "United By Hope" members, who every day is reminded of what happened on 9/11. And my kids will most definitely know about it. But who is to say what will be passed to their kids, and the ones after that.

How many of you outside of Oklahoma City can tell me these three things:

  1. The year of the Oklahoma City Bombing.
  2. The date of it.
  3. The main perpetrator.

Chances are some of you will know #3, and that is all.

All horrible acts get pushed to the back, because time moves on, and those closely associated with them disappear from this world.

So no, I won't be forgetting American slavery, but like the Black Plague, it is now a thing for the History Books.

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Your Life Belongs To You

Recently I was talking to a girl, who I had met as a possible "dating prospect", and things seemed to be going fine.

We talked back and forth for a few days, and things seemed all rosy and peachy, and looked like we might actually meet up for a first date.

And then it happened...her friend said something to her that made her think otherwise...and I quote (actual quotations""; and ... where parts were skipped, since they don't pertain to this story):

"I was talking today with someone who is very close to me and knows me very well...I was telling her about you and our conversations...The one thing that she mentioned to me that made me stop and think was that I wouldn't want my kids to grow up with a TV...Does that mean that I will throw out all my dvds and box sets, right now no, but maybe one day..."

Can we dissect this for a second?

One day, she is talking to me, and is fine with all of this, and the next, her friend tells her what she wants for her kids, and she changes her mind.


Not she making one herself, her friend telling her.

Second issue: She MAY throw out her DVDs and Box Sets one day...May? If you want your kids to grow up without TV, then those box sets will have to go. If you think that they don't have to go, then it's okay for your kids to know about TV shows, in which case, you will probably have a TV/DVD player, and you are right back where you were.

Except not right back where you were, because you told some guy you can't go out with him, because of something a friend told you you want.

Girls. Time for y'all to grow up. And make your own decisions.

It is your life. Take control of it.

And  yes, I have seen all the recent blog posts about girls asking a guy out, and truthfully, screw the stereotypes. If one person likes another person, regardless of the genders, they should ask them out. Because if you can't make a simple decision about going on a SINGLE DATE with another person, how do you think you'll be able to decide harder things later in life?

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Stacy's Mom

So we all remember that 2003 song by Fountains of Wayne called "Stacy's Mom".

For those that somehow missed it, here it is in all its wonderful glory.

But that is not the main point of this post. The main point is that I discovered a 2010 invention called:

Stacy's Mom - The Movie

Now, to save you all the trouble, I watched it.

It is horrible.

It is vulgar.

It is horrible.

Now I don't mind vulgarity, but the double dose of horribleness is just too much for one movie.

However, if there is one side to the movie, it involves two great characters.


And her Mom.

But trust me, take the much shorter version (4 minutes vs. 84 minutes), and stick to the one up above for your viewing pleasures.

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Be Yourself

Be yourself. Do what you feel like. And you can become anything.

Don’t hide your true self.

Temporary Ending?

When I started this blog, I didn't know what I intended to do with it.

What I would write.

And even more, who the heck would read it?
In my first day or two a lot of people, surprisingly, read my posts, although I'm sure most of them never put up with my arrogant style again.

I also got goals set upon me by fellow blogger Altie that I wouldn't make it more than two weeks.

So it gave me a goal, and a purpose.

And I set forth to put up a new post every day (not counting Shabbos/YT).

It is now 39 days after I started this blog.

It has also been 37 published posts/notes/guest posts/etc. on this blog, with a surprising number of "PageViews" (for what those are worth), numbering into the 2000s.

But for now, I think I am done with it.

I have lost my will to do it.

I hope to still keep reading/commenting on the blogs around me.

And if something sparks my interest enough, I may put out periodic new posts.

Thanks to those who have read, and will stay around for those random times that I do post.

Arrivederci il mio segreto anonimo amici.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Words Have Meaning - Use Them Right

I have conversations with people of both genders all the time.

But the thing that bothers me, is when people of the opposite gender, say things that shouldn't be said, unless they are truly meant.

Here are some examples:

  1. "Sure we are best friends" - this may be a wonderful thing to say to someone. However, if every time you try contacting them, you get no response. Or if you need someone to call and talk too about something, they never pick up. Then don't fake the friendship, because it is just wrong.
  2. Terms of Endearment - Such as saying"Good night" vs. "Good night WM", the second is a more personal touch. And if you have a nickname, that is made up by that person, to sound more lovey-dovey, and you go with "Good night _____". But if you don't mean it, just go with "Good night", and keep it simple.
  3. I love ____ - This is a common one. Don't use the word 'love' casually too often. It gets outplayed/overused, and loses meaning. Also don't say it to another person, and then fall into the category of #1.
All these things are mistakes that just leave the other person hurting, and why would you do that to someone you claim to be best friends with?

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Big Gulp Gone Wild

For those that missed the big news out of New York last week, New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg announced that the city would be limiting soft drink sales.

Any 16-ounce, or larger, drink that contains more than 25 calories per 8 ounces, will be banned from sale. Diet sodas would not be included.

Now personally, I tend to stick to water. But when I do venture into the world of sodas, if I get a 20-ounce or larger, I wouldn't finish it. It's too much to drink and enjoy, plus by the time you get lower down in the bottle, the fizz is gone, and it tastes horrible.

But banning the bigger drinks isn't a solution at all...wouldn't people then just buy two or three of them?

This is to try and fix obesity.

Obesity isn't caused by drinks.

Obesity isn't caused by sitting around and playing video games.

Obesity is caused by PARENTS.

If a parent has proper control over what their children are doing, the kids will stay in shape.

If you feed them candy 24/7 and don't give them normal food, they will get fat.

If you don't make the kid go outside and play once in a while, and get some sunlight, also good for the kid, he will have issues.

Now, I do understand that some people are naturally bigger, and some naturally smaller, but that won't be solved by this Big Gulp Ban.

That's just genetics.

Monday, June 4, 2012


I don't understand other bloggers.

They open up their private lives to the world in their blogs, yet they get paranoid over the littlest of things.

I don’t mean to pick on her, but she did bring it up yesterday, and as an example Single on the Scene had her piece yesterday about sending her shidduch resume to the wrong person. And she woke up at 1:30AM worrying about it...does she realize that she has so much of that information on her resume, on her blog as well? Info that can be accessed by anyone in the world, not just the one person that she emailed it too by mistake?

I mean, if I wanted to, I could figure out her age, height, weight and so much more info, if I cared enough too.

But don't worry SooS, I don't care to.

Just venting a pet peeve that had become common theme in my earlier posts.

"Paranoia is all I've got left" - M. Shinoda

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Girls Need To Man Up

A few months ago I went on a first date with a girl.

We decided beforehand that since we both didn't have much time available over the next few days, we would meet up for lunch one day, and eat-stroll-shmooze.

From my point of view, it went pretty good. And she had said the same after.

I got a little busy over the following few days, and didn't have much time to text anyone, including her, so a few days later I apologized for my lack of conversation, saying that I had been busy, but I will try to fix that over the next couple of days.

She said it was okay, because she had actually been dating someone else at the same time (early stages), but didn't want to pass up a date with someone that could possibly work out. But on that note, things were more serious between them now, a few days later, so she thanked me, said she'd had a good time, and that was it.

I hadn't known if I liked her or not, and had wanted to go on another date before jumping to any conclusions.

Fast forward to now. She's single, and on the dating market again.

From my point of view, I already made my move. We had gone out, and then she became busy, and had moved on from it all.

If she still thinks we could work out, it is on her to make a move, because I already did.

If she thinks that we couldn't work out, then why not just be honest about that off the top, and a few months ago say that she really had no interest in me, and thanks for my time.

But I digress, because if a girl isn't man enough to say what she truly feels, then she isn't right for me.

Side note, I know, this was not on schedule, but after a month of that, I say: Who cares.

Friday, June 1, 2012


I am really tired today, yet still feel like writing something, so I think it is best to just pull out song lyrics, and throw them together, about the tiredness which I feel.

"Today I don't feel like doing anything" - Bruno Mars
"And I could use a little strength before I fall" - Santana
"So give me coffee and TV" - Blur
and "I'll be on my way" - Beatles

Good night y'all. I'm going to sleep for a day or two.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Location, Location, Location

Some of you may have noticed by now the "location" tag on all my blogs.

They all come from a seemingly random place, but upon closer inspection, they all have a little something to do with the blog post itself. Be it a related word to the post, or a sarcastic joke of what it is.

For those of you who haven't noticed, or even those who have, I decided after a month of posts (now) to compile the complete list in one post, and give the reasoning to them all.

And yes, they are all real locations.

  • Big Beaver, PA - Because it's just funny.
  • Climax, GA - Yes, my first few locations were kinda was before I started getting cute with them.
  • Zigzag, OR - This was on my first poem, which went all over the place
  • Money Island Beach, NC - On a post about my sanity...
  • Niceville, FL - The schedule to my madness, which has mostly been followed til now - Go me!
  • Crackersport, PA - On my first sports post.
  • Cranberry Marsh, WI - The attention span there is probably not that large.
  • Looneyville, NY - While introducing the The Shomer Toucher...I apologize.
  • Funkhouser, IL - When I was in a funk about being used.
  • Interwebs - While creating a now non-used Twitter account.
  • Hotchkissville, CT - "Kiss" while talking about the choices of Shomer Negiah
  • Bacon, IN - A poem that ended with a quote on bacon.
  • Kiryas Joel, NY - On a post about Chassidim...if you don't get this one, I can't help you.
  • Fort Dick, CA - Another sports post, which is generally a manly thing.
  • Goose Egg, WY - On The Shomer Touchers first post. A goose egg amongst my golden eggs. Eh, who am I kidding, TSTs posts are brilliant.
  • Dumbell, WY - Talking about the Asifah....I think it was appropriate.
  • Hand, SD - On a post about handwriting.
  • Nunapitsinchak, AK - Don't ask. It was just an awesome name.
  • Mt Homa, Kenya - President Barack Hussein Obama's "Hometown"
  • Sao Paolo, Brazil - Another sports post, with multiple stories on soccer (futbol), so only appropriate to bring in Brazil.
  • Guide, Hainan, Qinghai, China - Because there was no correct place to stick this post.
  • Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL - Well, because it was Linkin Park lyrics...
  • Angerville, France - I was angry...
  • Bieber, CA - Poor city was named after that Canadian girl.
  • Fukita, Itano, Itano District, Tokushima Prefecture, Japan - It was a thought. I needed a longer location name then the thought.
  • Whatcom County Jail, 311 Grand St, Bellingham, WA 98225, USA - I was talking about petitions, including ones to get people out of jail.
  • Tomb of the Unknowns, VA - Was there any place more appropriate for Memorial Day?
  • San Andreas Fault, CA - Talking about peoples faults.
  • Nadi, Fiji - This post, since that's how many people will still be reading by this point. Nada.

Cheerio people. One month in :) how long can I last? (That's what you said last night, what a coincidence.)

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Healer, Heal Thyself

I'm lucky enough to have a very educated circle of friends, many of whom are practicing or pursuing specialized careers in providing for the well being of others.

Psychology seems to be an all-around favorite profession. For some reason it makes me proud to watch my friends and contemporaries become mental health counselors, social workers, psychologists and school psychologists. I imagine these curricula to be vast and hopefully taxing on the undertakers' critical reasoning skills.

Sometimes the reaction to all this material is to become alarmist and recognize yourself in the disorders, even though your tendencies are still within normal limits. Still at other times, you manage to completely miss the fact that you have intra/interpersonal issues that are quite obvious to even non-qualified people who know you. Or, you acknowledge your issues but fail to tackle them the same way that you would encourage your underlings to do.

It becomes unsettling to see said psychologist stamping their professional opinion on other people's behaviors when you experience firsthand how dysfunctionally they deal with you in a conflict. I know it's difficult to recognize your own faults, but your position becomes laughable to me if your techniques are not good enough to work on yourself. It makes me wonder why you went into the profession in the first place. Just like I doubt the abilities of the hairstylist whose hair is shapeless and highlights are in dire straits, I am doubting whether I would honestly feel confident in you managing my (theoretical) case or the case of anyone I care about. If you were anything but a hairstylist, your messy hair would go unnoticed, but in the role you chose that attribute is under scrutiny.

If you have a long-standing personality issue that needs to be fixed but cannot be changed easily, I suggest you stop procrastinating. Acknowledge, apologize, take responsibility for it and for heaven's sake get off your high horse. The accomplishments in your career do not cover up your personal shortcomings that your friends and family have to endure. It makes you look foolish.

It's instinctual to look for faults in those who put themselves out there as experts. As your friends, we know you are a normal person despite your intellectual authority, and we try not to hold you to a higher standard of mental integrity than a regular person. However when you fall below that bar even.... you fail. And some observations don't require your degree in order to be correct.