Your Life Belongs To You

Recently I was talking to a girl, who I had met as a possible "dating prospect", and things seemed to be going fine.


We talked back and forth for a few days, and things seemed all rosy and peachy, and looked like we might actually meet up for a first date.


And then it happened...her friend said something to her that made her think otherwise...and I quote (actual quotations""; and ... where parts were skipped, since they don't pertain to this story):

"I was talking today with someone who is very close to me and knows me very well...I was telling her about you and our conversations...The one thing that she mentioned to me that made me stop and think was that I wouldn't want my kids to grow up with a TV...Does that mean that I will throw out all my dvds and box sets, right now no, but maybe one day..."


Can we dissect this for a second?


One day, she is talking to me, and is fine with all of this, and the next, her friend tells her what she wants for her kids, and she changes her mind.


So first issue: HER FRIEND JUST MADE A LIFE DECISION FOR HER.


Not she making one herself, her friend telling her.


Second issue: She MAY throw out her DVDs and Box Sets one day...May? If you want your kids to grow up without TV, then those box sets will have to go. If you think that they don't have to go, then it's okay for your kids to know about TV shows, in which case, you will probably have a TV/DVD player, and you are right back where you were.


Except not right back where you were, because you told some guy you can't go out with him, because of something a friend told you you want.


Girls. Time for y'all to grow up. And make your own decisions.


It is your life. Take control of it.


And  yes, I have seen all the recent blog posts about girls asking a guy out, and truthfully, screw the stereotypes. If one person likes another person, regardless of the genders, they should ask them out. Because if you can't make a simple decision about going on a SINGLE DATE with another person, how do you think you'll be able to decide harder things later in life?

Stacy's Mom

So we all remember that 2003 song by Fountains of Wayne called "Stacy's Mom".


For those that somehow missed it, here it is in all its wonderful glory.

But that is not the main point of this post. The main point is that I discovered a 2010 invention called:

Stacy's Mom - The Movie


Now, to save you all the trouble, I watched it.


It is horrible.


It is vulgar.


It is horrible.


Now I don't mind vulgarity, but the double dose of horribleness is just too much for one movie.


However, if there is one side to the movie, it involves two great characters.


Stacy.


And her Mom.


But trust me, take the much shorter version (4 minutes vs. 84 minutes), and stick to the one up above for your viewing pleasures.

Be Yourself

Be yourself. Do what you feel like. And you can become anything.

Don’t hide your true self.

Temporary Ending?

When I started this blog, I didn't know what I intended to do with it.

What I would write.

And even more, who the heck would read it?

In my first day or two a lot of people, surprisingly, read my posts, although I'm sure most of them never put up with my arrogant style again.

I also got goals set upon me by fellow blogger Altie that I wouldn't make it more than two weeks.

So it gave me a goal, and a purpose.

And I set forth to put up a new post every day (not counting Shabbos/YT).

It is now 39 days after I started this blog.

It has also been 37 published posts/notes/guest posts/etc. on this blog, with a surprising number of "PageViews" (for what those are worth), numbering into the 2000s.

But for now, I think I am done with it.

I have lost my will to do it.

I hope to still keep reading/commenting on the blogs around me.

And if something sparks my interest enough, I may put out periodic new posts.

Thanks to those who have read, and will stay around for those random times that I do post.

Arrivederci il mio segreto anonimo amici.

Words Have Meaning - Use Them Right

I have conversations with people of both genders all the time.


But the thing that bothers me, is when people of the opposite gender, say things that shouldn't be said, unless they are truly meant.


Here are some examples:

1. "Sure we are best friends" - this may be a wonderful thing to say to someone. However, if every time you try contacting them, you get no response. Or if you need someone to call and talk too about something, they never pick up. Then don't fake the friendship, because it is just wrong.
2. Terms of Endearment - Such as saying"Good night" vs. "Good night WM", the second is a more personal touch. And if you have a nickname, that is made up by that person, to sound more lovey-dovey, and you go with "Good night _____". But if you don't mean it, just go with "Good night", and keep it simple.
3. I love ____ - This is a common one. Don't use the word 'love' casually too often. It gets outplayed/overused, and loses meaning. Also don't say it to another person, and then fall into the category of #1.

All these things are mistakes that just leave the other person hurting, and why would you do that to someone you claim to be best friends with?

Big Gulp Gone Wild

For those that missed the big news out of New York last week, New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg announced that the city would be limiting soft drink sales.

Any 16-ounce, or larger, drink that contains more than 25 calories per 8 ounces, will be banned from sale. Diet sodas would not be included.

Now personally, I tend to stick to water. But when I do venture into the world of sodas, if I get a 20-ounce or larger, I wouldn't finish it. It's too much to drink and enjoy, plus by the time you get lower down in the bottle, the fizz is gone, and it tastes horrible.

But banning the bigger drinks isn't a solution at all...wouldn't people then just buy two or three of them?

This is to try and fix obesity.

Obesity isn't caused by drinks.

Obesity isn't caused by sitting around and playing video games.

Obesity is caused by PARENTS.

If a parent has proper control over what their children are doing, the kids will stay in shape.

If you feed them candy 24/7 and don't give them normal food, they will get fat.

If you don't make the kid go outside and play once in a while, and get some sunlight, also good for the kid, he will have issues.

Now, I do understand that some people are naturally bigger, and some naturally smaller, but that won't be solved by this Big Gulp Ban.

That's just genetics.

Paranoia

I don't understand other bloggers.

They open up their private lives to the world in their blogs, yet they get paranoid over the littlest of things.

I don’t mean to pick on her, but she did bring it up yesterday, and as an example Single on the Scene had her piece yesterday about sending her shidduch resume to the wrong person. And she woke up at 1:30AM worrying about it...does she realize that she has so much of that information on her resume, on her blog as well? Info that can be accessed by anyone in the world, not just the one person that she emailed it too by mistake?

I mean, if I wanted to, I could figure out her age, height, weight and so much more info, if I cared enough too.

But don't worry SooS, I don't care to.

Just venting a pet peeve that had become common theme in my earlier posts.

"Paranoia is all I've got left" - M. Shinoda

Girls Need To Man Up

A few months ago I went on a first date with a girl.


We decided beforehand that since we both didn't have much time available over the next few days, we would meet up for lunch one day, and eat-stroll-shmooze.


From my point of view, it went pretty good. And she had said the same after.


I got a little busy over the following few days, and didn't have much time to text anyone, including her, so a few days later I apologized for my lack of conversation, saying that I had been busy, but I will try to fix that over the next couple of days.


She said it was okay, because she had actually been dating someone else at the same time (early stages), but didn't want to pass up a date with someone that could possibly work out. But on that note, things were more serious between them now, a few days later, so she thanked me, said she'd had a good time, and that was it.


I hadn't known if I liked her or not, and had wanted to go on another date before jumping to any conclusions.


Fast forward to now. She's single, and on the dating market again.


From my point of view, I already made my move. We had gone out, and then she became busy, and had moved on from it all.


If she still thinks we could work out, it is on her to make a move, because I already did.


If she thinks that we couldn't work out, then why not just be honest about that off the top, and a few months ago say that she really had no interest in me, and thanks for my time.


But I digress, because if a girl isn't man enough to say what she truly feels, then she isn't right for me.


Side note, I know, this was not on schedule, but after a month of that, I say: Who cares.

Sleepiness

I am really tired today, yet still feel like writing something, so I think it is best to just pull out song lyrics, and throw them together, about the tiredness which I feel.


"Today I don't feel like doing anything" - Bruno Mars
"And I could use a little strength before I fall" - Santana
"So give me coffee and TV" - Blur
and "I'll be on my way" - Beatles


Good night y'all. I'm going to sleep for a day or two.